Let's go back for a moment to last September 20th. That day, I had the pleasure of presenting Who comes and who goes, my book of poems. It was an intense moment, full of discussion and reflection. In this article, I want to tell you what emerged during that meeting and what directions this project might take in the future.

The full presentation with subtitles is available online at this link.

Who Comes and Who Goes at Luce – Emotional Bookstore

At Luce – Emotional Bookstore, on a warm literary afternoon, I had the opportunity to share my work in a space filled with curious and attentive people. Together with psychologist and psychotherapist Daniela Coda, who moderated the meeting, we talked about poetry, illustration, and technology. It was an intense hour, during which I recounted my journey, the experiences that gave life to the book, and the human process behind every written word.

An introduction that speaks to everyone

Right from the start, Daniela highlighted an aspect that struck me deeply: this book doesn't just talk about me, but also about the reader. The experiences I recount are personal but at the same time universal. During the meeting, I retraced my beginnings in writing, the period of lockdown, and the moments of rupture I experienced, including emotional and real loss. It was precisely by going through these events that I found a new balance, transforming pain into something shareable.

Will there be a sequel?

During the presentation, an important detail emerged: Who comes and who goes will not be a destination. I am already working on new texts born from another strong and destabilizing experience. Writing, once again, has become necessary to contain the weight of words and memories. I don't yet know what form this new project will take, but I do know that it will continue this artistic and personal search.

What writing means to me

I was asked what it meant to write this book, and my answer was very sincere. I started writing out of joy. Then, finding myself using writing to tell of pain was difficult at first. But that's where everything changed: I realized that writing can be a powerful tool. I truly believe it's better to transform suffering into words rather than let it explode in other ways. Writing, for me, has become a way to remain.

Transforming pain into narrative

During the dialogue, a central theme emerged: writing as a therapeutic form. Writing and reading help us connect with what we often try to avoid. It's a way to pause, be silent, and observe our emotions without running away. And that's exactly what I tried to do with Who comes and who goes: give form to something that would otherwise have remained undefined.

The structure of the book and its genesis

I also explained how the book is structured. There are no "traditional" chapters, but emotional threads that follow an internal path. An interesting element is the final chapter, Acceptance. It was not initially planned. It came about later, when I felt the need to close a circle that, at first, I didn't even know I could complete. The entire book was guided by memories and a relationship that I didn't choose to end, but which inevitably changed the direction of my life and my writing.

Between emotional loss and real grief

One of the most intense moments was when we addressed the topic of grief. In my case, two levels intertwine: the end of a relationship and the loss of my grandmother during the pandemic. Two dialogues remained open within me, two different but deeply connected absences. I remember talking about how difficult it was to accept the absence, especially when what is missing is something beautiful that can no longer be experienced. Even small details, like a flavor of ice cream, suddenly become loaded with meaning.

A psychological reading of pain

Daniela then offered a very interesting reflection: we often speak of grief even in relationships that end, because the emotional burden is similar. Indeed, in some cases, emotional loss can be even more complex to process. There is no clear closure, and this makes the process more ambiguous and difficult. This is where inner work comes into play, and sometimes even the support of a therapist.

What I want to leave with the reader

During the presentation, I asked myself what I truly wanted to leave with those who read this book. One of the most important things is to learn to catch the signals. We often ignore small gestures, small disrespects, and end up building something on fragile foundations. If respect is lacking in small things, one must ask what kind of future is being built. This is one of the strongest lessons I carry with me.

A journey of acceptance

Who comes and who goes is, first and foremost, a journey of acceptance. Acceptance doesn't mean enduring or resigning oneself, but understanding, not judging, forgiving. It means making peace with what has been, even when it is no longer shared. It is a slow process, but necessary to truly move forward.

The unresolved confrontation

One of the central themes of the book is the absence of a final confrontation. This book was born precisely from that: from the need to create a dialogue that never existed in reality. Writing was my way of giving voice to that missing confrontation. Over time, I understood that, sometimes, the absence of a confrontation can even be healthier. A response is not always needed to move forward.

The true confrontation is with oneself

In the end, the point is not the other person, but oneself. I realized that to be well, one must put things in order within. It is a process that requires time, experience, and even suffering. But it is the only authentic way to move forward. At one point I asked myself: does it really make sense to seek that confrontation, or is it better to accept its absence?

Reading to grow

Towards the end of the meeting, we returned to a fundamental point: reading. Reading and writing are powerful tools for personal growth. In a sense, this book is also a gesture of sharing: I bared myself to allow others to recognize themselves, reflect, and perhaps feel less alone.

This is just a fragment of what the presentation of Who comes and who goes was. If you truly want to delve into this journey, I recommend watching the full intervention. You might find something there that speaks to you too.

And, perhaps, find yourself right where you didn't think to look.